Love this article. As a person recovering from a deep betrayal, I can relate to everything you said here so much!
And I agree with what Kevin Nolan says in his comment too — that often the betrayer has no awareness of how deeply they have hurt us.
My offender just shrugs it off and denies any wrong-doing. And I have let this keep me stuck in a place of victimhood and anger.
Your article was a wake up call to start forgiving myself. That really the person I need to forgive is me. And peace will come.
The last few weeks when I have a longing thought of my ex, I say to myself “Let go, let go.” And it helps. It stops the rumination you talk about.
Thank you for the comprehensive article about this all too common challenge we all will face at some point or another.