I like what you said about being alone when you are married — that you had your marriage as a grounding point. I feel that so much. I spent most of my time alone when I was married, but in the back of my mind, I knew I had him around.

I too haven’t tried a movie alone yet, that was one thing we did alot of together and it still hurts to go without him. Travel alone? I haven’t yet had the time or money or courage to try. But I will.

It’s a process, but one that I have to take — you have to take. And I am hopeful that it will be better. But you are so right, you can’t understand what it’s like to lose someone so quickly, unexpectedly and with an element of betrayal. It’s a death — but you don’t get the sympathy or the casseroles.

Thanks for your thoughtful response. I wish you well.